Fake it until you make it!

fake it until you make it

There are many ways of becoming something else and experience something new but the best and the fastest way to become something new is to fake it until you make it!

This is more like a “use your body to trick your mind” kind of exercise and it can be proven to be really useful in many areas of your life, especially the professional one.

It can easily be associated with being an actor in your life, but acting is becoming and constant becoming is followed by being.

 

Let’s imagine that you must give a speech and you are very afraid of public speaking, if you can trick your body into being a great public speaker and actually do it, that experience will add up into your mind.

Therefore, with time you won’t even have to think about faking it because you’ve already become a great public speaker by then.

Many successful entrepreneurs are aware of this already and they are now using it every time they do something new, that’s just a hack in how they keep their confidence up almost all the time.

If you want to find out more about this subject, here’s a great Ted Talk that can help you.

How to stay focused

How to stay focused

Hello.

Have you ever desired to do anything in your life but had a consistent feeling of lacking something essential so you couldn’t achieve your desire?

Well, that feeling of lack can be many things but it usually is a lack of focus.

Think about it.

Lack of focus is the most common killer of making thingS happen.

Whenever you decide to work on a project, you are starting it and after 20-30 minutes someone calls you on your phone, or maybe you’ve received an interesting e-mail from someone you know, what about Facebook? Instagram? Snapchat?… etc.

There are many things that you could do anytime and anywhere but doing everything that’s not important for you, will only get you distracted.

So, let’s get into how to actually get to stay focused.


  1. Focus as a practice:

Focus can be trained like any other muscle and meditation is the best way to practice focus and that’s because you can literally do it anytime, anywhere. It’s important to find some time daily to meditate for at least 5 minutes a day if you want to get into the habit of being more focused.

Here’s how I do it: 

Usually, I meditate in the morning after waking up by closing my eyes and turning my focus to my breath and then start counting my inhale and exhale. After doing this for at least 4-5 minutes, my mind is serene and ready to start doing things.


    2. Turn off your distractions

Just close your phone if you know that you’re going to get messages and if you’re going to be distracted by facebook messages or others.

As simple as it sounds, it’s more complicated than it actually is, right?

That’s because it is already in your habit to have the phone besides you or you’re already in the habit of checking facebook every once in a while.

These kinds of habits are eating away your energy and focus.

They do nothing more but waste your focus and energy, you can always make time for facebook or other people, but you’ve got to limit that time to stay focused on what you really desire.


    3. The rule of “three”

Always plan your day ahead with a rule of three, meaning that you’ve always got three most important things to achieve in that day.

The best way to do this is with a piece of paper and a pen.

Just write down all the things that you’ve gotta do in that day and then choose three most important things to achieve, take that paper with you wherever you go and always start with the hardest thing from that list.

After practicing this for a while, you’ll get to know how much you can achieve in one day and you’ll see changes in your behavior and productivity.


4. Kill multi-tasking

Multi-tasking can really hurt your productivity and focus.

I hear a lot of my friends saying “I can multi-task easily, I do it all the time!”

NO!

You simply can’t multi-task, your brain isn’t made for that, there are many researches and resources that tried to explain this and the most powerful and resourceful one is a bestseller book – ” The One Thing – Gary W. Keller ”  in which the author also stated that: “Multitasking is a lie”.


5. Build a mindset for focus

Many successful entrepreneurs and scientists have found out that by having a special mindset, you can literally achieve anything that you want to achieve.

     “I do not think there is any thrill that can go through the human heart
like that felt by the inventor as he sees some creation of the brain
unfolding to success… Such emotions make a man forget
food, sleep, friends, love, everything.”

~ Nikola Tesla

Can you see the pattern here?

Always have in mind what you want to achieve, but have it in your mind because by achieving it, you’re fulfilling your purpose and you get to  feel something better than anything else.

Alright guys, I’ll end it here, but if you want to research more about the subject, here are some sources that might assist you:

11 Steps to Insane Focus: Do More of What Matters

Author: Axentioi Alexandru

3 Signs that YOU might become rich one day

Rich

Are you going to be rich one day?

In a nutshell, by simplifying the way you think about money, you can find out whether you are ment to be successful or not. But to get to actually know this in your mind, you’ve got to follow the signs that surround you.

Therefore, Here are three powerful signs that might confirm the fact that you are going to be successful one day:
  1. Speed of implementation
  2. Ability to take action when you feel uncertain
  3. How much you value your time

I dare you to follow me up on this one.

If you do not think that you have those traits, I also dare you to try to implement them into your life just to test it out because these traits will make you successful, there’s no doubt about it because its modeled after billionaires and successful entrepreneurs like Elon Musk, Henry Ford and many others.

Now, let’s talk about those three traits.

1. Speed of implementation

This basically means that whenever a new idea comes, you are the person that takes action immediately by working on it as fast as you can and achieve results FAST in your life.

Think about this, let’s say that you run a business on the internet and you need to find ways to grow up your publicity and marketing aswell, you buy a book about it, you read it and you get the snippet that you need from the book(the golden nugget) and then immediately apply it to your business.

By doing that you’ve expanded your business and made it more relevant to the world.

This can be applied to any area of your life, not only online marketing.

So, whenever you learn something new, immediately do it.


2. THe ability to take action when you feel uncertain

Many successful people felt unsure about things, either it’s about investing in something that’s not certain that will bring you success in your life.

But they actually cracked the code, and that is: “Nothing is 100% certain.”

I bet that you can agree with me here.

Here I want to introduce to you a person named Tony Robbins, he’s an motivational entrepreneur, financial personal instructor and the author of books for self-development like a best-seller “Awaken the Giant Within”.

Here’s what he has to say about success:

“Success is determined by the amount of uncertainty that you can handle” -Tony Robbins

Therefore, successful people can handle uncertainty.

Whenever you’re uncertain about something, just pull the trigger to find out if it really works or not, don’t waste your time thinking it out, just do it.

If you end up failing, you’ll learn from it. 


3. hOW MUCH YOU VALUE YOUR TIME

The last sign is that you actually value your time so much that you do not waste it on watching TV when you get home or go partying and other stuff related to throwing your time away.

It’s normal for people to relax and have some time off after work but successful people plan this part, they don’t chill everyday, if you’re chill that means that you’re producing something while you’re relaxing.

To be more prompt about this.

Successful people don’t waste their time watching TV, reading the news or other bull**** that aren’t relevant to their dream life.

They’re constantly grinding, working for their dream and that’s quite the opposite of what normal people are doing right now.

You might think that its actually crazy…

BUT IT WORKS!

Alright, I’ll end it here, but if you wish to find out more about those subjects, here are some great resources that you can follow:

http://ia-bc.com/upload/359044.pdf – Awaken the Giant Within

Author: Axentioi Alexandru

 

How Build a strong Self-Esteem

Self Improvement

Hello.

Lately I’ve been constantly searching for ways to develop a strong self-esteem by reading books in the area of this subject and I must admit that the best book for self-esteem that I found was:

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem – Nathaniel Branden


Before jumping right in the content of the book, I’d like to firstly define what self-esteem is… therefore, wikipedia states that:

In sociology and psychology, self-esteem reflects a person’s overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self.

Self-esteem encompasses beliefs about oneself, (for example, “I am competent”, “I am worthy”), as well as emotional states, such as triumph, despair, pride, and shame.

With other words:

Self-esteem reflects the way you see and judge yourself.


So how do you raise your self-esteem so that you could have a healthy self-esteem?

Meaning that you’d view yourself as worthy of anything that you desire and have a strong feeling that you can be triumphant in anything that you do, how do you achieve that?

Nathaniel Branden was a Canadian–American psychotherapist and writer known for his work in the psychology of self-esteem. He divides the needs for having a powerful self-esteem in 6 pillars and those are:

1. Living Consciously

In order to have higher self-esteem, you need to be conscious of what you are doing.

By being real, I don’t think that everyone can achieve a state of being conscious of every action that he or she takes but living consciously is a different thing and it reflects the idea of knowing what really is happening around you.


2. Self-Acceptance

This could be harder for some and easier for others but the art of self acceptance can be easily spelled like this:

Improve what you can and Accept what you can’t.


3. Self-Responsibility

Well, responsibility means that you are accepting that YOU are the cause and the solution of the matters around you.

Just by stopping in playing the victim can raise your self-esteem.


4. Self-Assertiveness

Stop ignoring your authentic self when it comes to social practices.

A healthy self-esteem means that you should be assertive, meaning that you should be grounded in your beliefs and never change your beliefs for someone else if it’s not productive for your own being.

It’s alright to be obtrusively energetic especially in pursuing particular goals.

5. Living Purposefully

Why do you do the things that you do right now? Why do you live in this moment that you are reading this post?

The best response for those kind of questions are quite simple,  because you are doing IT.

You are living because you are living and therefore, you are engaged into a deep experience called life.

You can see it as a game or as a dance, whatever you wish to see it like but always remember that you can always choose what kind of experience you want to be in.


6. Personal Integrity

Personal integrity is an innate moral conviction to stand against things that are not virtuous or morally right.

This makes individuals do what they think is right regardless of the consequences attached with their decisions. People with high personal integrity are usually describes as trustworthy, loyal, generous, wise and mature


You can take these 6 pillars as needs that need to be solved in order for you to have a strong self-esteem.

Before ending, if you wish to see a visual description of what this book has to offer, watch the following video:

 

Hope you’ll have a great day!

Author – Axentioi Alexandru

How to improve yourself

We all have things we’d like to change about ourselves. Maybe you want to improve your skills in a certain area, be more comfortable socially, be happier, or more productive. Whatever the improvement, in order to achieve it you may benefit from identifying your specific goals, enacting change, and dealing with setbacks.

Identifying goals:

Think about how you would like your future to be.

Thinking about future positive possibilities enhances motivation, expectation of successfully achieving a goal, and commitment to self-improvement.

Determine what needs improvement and what doesn’t

It’s important to be specific in your goals, and to know which goals are a top priority.

Identify your assets (honest, hard-working, loving…etc.) and your liabilities (angry…etc.). This may help you identify the areas in which you want to make the most improvement.

Prioritize your list of goals. Rate each goal from 1-10, 10 being the highest priority for you. Focus on this goal first.

Make SMART goals. SMART goals are specific, realistic, and time-bound goals.

Break down each goal into smaller goals.

Instead of making grand goals, start by establishing little goals that achieve the grand goal.

Action: Aplying change

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You are in this stage if you are working on your plan on a daily basis. You have a plan and are currently moving toward your goal.

Maintenance

You have completed your goal and are maintaining your progress.

Be your own coach. Self-coaching or checking in with yourself on a daily basis is believed to be an increase in self-improvement.

Ask yourself questions like, “Did I focus on or work toward my goals today? Did I have a positive attitude today?  Did I accept my challenges today? Did I change something for the better today ?

Practice, practice, practice! Change may come slowly especially if it is a large self-improvement. Just keep going until your goal is your new reality (the changed you).

Remind yourself about your specific goals on a daily basis.

Dealing with Setbacks

Acknowledge that setbacks are normal. If change moved vertically, we’d all have an easier time making personal modifications. The truth is, change does not typically follow a distinct path and there may be rocks in the road.

Make a list of possible setbacks that may occur during your journey toward self improvement. Identify ways to deal with each setback.

Focus on what you will do in the future. Thinking about what you did wrong does not help you achieve goals. However, focusing on what you can do now and in the future helps you more than you think.

Author: Andrei Triș