How to improve yourself

We all have things we’d like to change about ourselves. Maybe you want to improve your skills in a certain area, be more comfortable socially, be happier, or more productive. Whatever the improvement, in order to achieve it you may benefit from identifying your specific goals, enacting change, and dealing with setbacks.

Identifying goals:

Think about how you would like your future to be.

Thinking about future positive possibilities enhances motivation, expectation of successfully achieving a goal, and commitment to self-improvement.

Determine what needs improvement and what doesn’t

It’s important to be specific in your goals, and to know which goals are a top priority.

Identify your assets (honest, hard-working, loving…etc.) and your liabilities (angry…etc.). This may help you identify the areas in which you want to make the most improvement.

Prioritize your list of goals. Rate each goal from 1-10, 10 being the highest priority for you. Focus on this goal first.

Make SMART goals. SMART goals are specific, realistic, and time-bound goals.

Break down each goal into smaller goals.

Instead of making grand goals, start by establishing little goals that achieve the grand goal.

Action: Aplying change


You are in this stage if you are working on your plan on a daily basis. You have a plan and are currently moving toward your goal.


You have completed your goal and are maintaining your progress.

Be your own coach. Self-coaching or checking in with yourself on a daily basis is believed to be an increase in self-improvement.

Ask yourself questions like, “Did I focus on or work toward my goals today? Did I have a positive attitude today?  Did I accept my challenges today? Did I change something for the better today ?

Practice, practice, practice! Change may come slowly especially if it is a large self-improvement. Just keep going until your goal is your new reality (the changed you).

Remind yourself about your specific goals on a daily basis.

Dealing with Setbacks

Acknowledge that setbacks are normal. If change moved vertically, we’d all have an easier time making personal modifications. The truth is, change does not typically follow a distinct path and there may be rocks in the road.

Make a list of possible setbacks that may occur during your journey toward self improvement. Identify ways to deal with each setback.

Focus on what you will do in the future. Thinking about what you did wrong does not help you achieve goals. However, focusing on what you can do now and in the future helps you more than you think.

Author: Andrei Triș